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What happens at a funeral: the usual order of events
A typical US funeral has four parts: a visitation or viewing (often the evening before or an hour before the service), the funeral service itself, the committal at the graveside or crematorium, and a reception or gathering afterwards. Order and customs vary by religion, family and region; the funeral director will guide the timing.
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1. Visitation or viewing
Friends and family come to pay respects and greet the family, often at the funeral home. The casket may be open or closed. Guests usually sign a guest book, offer brief condolences and leave after a short time. See what to say at a funeral.
2. The funeral service
Held at a place of worship, the funeral home or another venue. A typical running order:
- Prelude music as guests are seated
- Processional (family enters; casket may be brought in)
- Welcome and opening words or prayer
- Readings
- Eulogy and tributes
- Music or hymn
- Sermon or reflection
- Closing words, prayer or moment of silence
- Recessional
The funeral program lists this order so guests can follow.
3. The committal
The final farewell at the graveside or crematorium. It's usually brief, with a few words, a prayer or reading, and sometimes flowers or soil placed on the casket. Sometimes only close family attend this part.
4. The reception
A gathering after the service, at a home, church hall, restaurant or community space. Food is often served, and people share memories more informally.
Who does what
- Funeral director: coordinates timing, transport, paperwork and the venue.
- Officiant: leads the service (clergy, celebrant or family friend).
- Family: chooses readings, music and speakers; often writes the eulogy and obituary.
- Pallbearers: carry or escort the casket.
- Speakers: give the eulogy or tributes.
Memorial services and celebrations of life
A memorial service is held without the body present and can take place weeks later. A celebration of life is usually more relaxed. See memorial service program and celebration of life program.